Posted on September 8, 2025
by Jeff Herringshaw
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I read of her in my college literature class, Lady Elaine of Astolat. A figure in Arthurian legend, she died from the weight of unrequited love. Sir Lancelot just didn’t feel it the same way she did. Of course, dying because of or for… Continue Reading “Choosing Painful Love”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Broken Heart, Death of Jesus, Faith, Feeling Good, Feelings, For the sake of love, Forget about myself, God, Grace, Hope, Jesus, Laying down my life, Long Suffering, love, Love Hurts, Martyrs, Pain, Painful, Painful Love, Real Love, Relational Bliss, Relationships, sacrificial love, Suffering, Suffering for Christ, Tragic Love, True Love, vows
It hit the airwaves just before I graduated from high school. And though I never absorbed any of the lyrics except the first line, I found myself humming and singing those few words over and over. There was also a movie and TV series… Continue Reading “Choosing a FOREVER Life”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Cheating Death, Conquering Death, Death, Delayed Gratification, Elves, Eternal Life, Eternal Value, Eternity, Faith, Fame, Famous, Forever, Fulfilled Life, Fulfillment, Getting Old, God's Promises, Heaven, Hope, I want to die young, Immediate Gratificationh, immortal, immortality, Incorruptible Body, Incorruptible life, Instant Gratification, Legacy, Life, Live forever, Long life, Long Term, Long Term Riches, love, Materialism, My Legacy, Never Ending, Never Ending Life, Old, Old Age, Pain, Perseverance, Remembered, Resurrection, Short Term, Too Old, Trust God
As a kid, I avoided certain people. They were the kind that didn’t seem to have the capacity to endure the messiness and clumsiness of children. They couldn’t see the intentions of little ones when something got spilt or broken. They were the kind… Continue Reading “Choosing to Release My Pain”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Accusing, Anger, Bad fruit, Bitter, Bitter Root, Bitterness, Cruel, Defiled, Faith, forgive, Grace, Grief, Healing, Hope, Hurts, injustice, Let Go, Let it go, Loss, love, Mean, Nasty, Pain, Painful, Redemption, Release, Release it, Resentful, Resentment, Revenge, Root of Bitterness, Sweet Jesus, Trauma, Truth, Unfair, Unjust, Wholeness, Wisdom, Wounds
Not too long ago I had a conversation with a person who struggles with addiction. He told me how he has a goal of developing more self discipline in his life. But he finds that he always fails in his efforts. He feels that… Continue Reading “Choosing to Let Desperation Work”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Attitude Change, Change, Desperate, Desperation, Discomfort, Do it on my own, Faith, Frustration, Hope, I Need God, Last resort, Long Suffering, love, Miserable, Misery, Motivation, Out of options, Pain, Patience, Perseverance, Suffering, the human will, Transformation
Posted on December 30, 2024
by Jeff Herringshaw
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The new year is upon us, and that means resolutions! Many of us are making promises to initiate changes in our lives. I have heard mixed reviews regarding the effectiveness of such commitments. Most of us give up on the pledges made on January… Continue Reading “Choosing a GUILTLESS New Year”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Change, Change my life, Clean Heart, Cleansed from sin, False Guilt, Forgive and forget, Forgive me, Forgiven, forgiveness, freedom, Freedom from guilt, freedom from past mistakes, freedom from past sin, God's mercy, guilt, Guilty, Healing, Hope, Hope for the new year, Humble, Humility, I want to change, Making Changes, new start, New Year, New Year Resolution, Pain, Redemption, Relationship healing, Release, Repentance, shame, sin, Soul Pain, Starting Over
Posted on September 9, 2024
by Jeff Herringshaw
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After my face was smashed into the sweaty mat several times by a brute bigger than me I changed my mind. That was enough, and I gave up the thought of becoming a wrestler. The high school coach had said he could make me… Continue Reading “Choosing to Not Give Up”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Child of God, Confused, Confusion, Difficult, Disappointed with God, Disappointment, Discouraged, Don't Give Up, Endurance, Faith, God's child, Hurt, I'm Confused, I'm Done, Identity, Is God Good?, It's over, Life, Never give up, Pain, Painful, Perseverence, Press On, Push in, Struggle, Struggling with God, Suffering, Tired, Trust, Trust God, Where is God?, Wrestling, Wrestling with God
It’s a condition that I have had for many years now. I am prone to develop infections in my colon that can be extremely painful. It has put me in the hospital in the past, and I have come to recognize the feeling in… Continue Reading “Choosing Real Comfort”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Comfort, Confusion, Desensitized, Discomfort, Emotional Pain, Feel better, Feelings, God's Comfort, guilt, Identity, Internal Wholeness, Internet porn, Medicate, Medication, Misunderstood, Negativity, Numb, Numbing the pain, Pain, Porn, Pornography, Psychic Pain, Real Comfort, Sadness, Self Reliance, Self-medicate, Self-Medication, Sickness, sin, Soul Medication, Symptoms, Unforgiveness, Wholeness
After my face was smashed into the sweaty mat several times by a brute bigger than me I changed my mind. That was enough, and I gave up the thought of becoming a wrestler. The high school coach had said he could make me… Continue Reading “Choosing to Wrestle with God”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Confusion, Desperation, Discomfort, Don't give up, Draw near to God, Endurance, Endure, Faith, Fighting with God, God's blessing, Jacob, Life is Unfair, New Identity, Pain, Perseverance, Promises of God, Struggles, Struggling with God, Suffering, Wrestling with God
Posted on April 3, 2023
by Jeff Herringshaw
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Ever been treated badly? Abandoned? Insulted? Ignored? Forgotten? Replaced? Taken for granted? Or you just feel like you never get a break? Nothing goes your way? Join the club! I have felt the sting (and sometimes the gut-punch) of all these abuses and misfortunes… Continue Reading “Choosing to Hate Self-Pity”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: False Humility, Feeling Sorry for Myself, Lament, Pain, Pity, Pride, Self Absorbed, Self Centered, Self Pity, Thanksgiving, Twisted self care
Posted on March 6, 2023
by Jeff Herringshaw
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It’s a condition that I have had for many years now. I am prone to develop infections in my colon that can be extremely painful. It has put me in the hospital in the past, and I have come to recognize the feeling in… Continue Reading “Choosing a Different Kind of Medication”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Addiction, Addictions, Comfort, Comforter, Distress, God Comforts, God's Way, Hurts, Medicate, Medicating, Numb, Over Eating, Pain, Porn, Pornography, Self Comfort, Self-Medicating, Sex Addiction, Soul Pain, Stress, The Comforter
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