I was in Lhasa, Tibet the first time I saw someone physically bow in worship to a statue. The Buddhist temple was filled with smoky incense, and dozens of people prostrated before a grinning image. Sunday-school stories of the ancient Israelites giving offerings to idols bubbled up from my memory. It was difficult to comprehend there were people today still worshiping gods made of wood and metal. The second Commandment came to mind: “You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or serve them” (Exodus 20:4, ESV).
My next thought: “I’m so glad we don’t carve images and worship them in our Western culture.”
Of course, I’m embarrassed now that I blindly believed the American people were idol-free. As a nation, we’ve made gods out of so many things, it’s mind blowing. Money and comfort are only the tip of the proverbial iceberg. There are all kinds of stuff we worshipfully run after to make our lives feel easier and worthwhile. We have relational idols—ideal connections with others that we trust will remove or cover our loneliness and give a greater sense of significance. We have philosophical and political idols—ideas we count on to provide a sense of control and self-determination. We even have religious idols—reshaped images of God that allow us to better relate to, manage, and fit the divine into our lifestyle.
Yes, we still worshipfully “carve” and fashion things and ideas into shapes we believe will benefit us. And we then bow down in submission, living our lives and treating others according to how these “gods” dictate.
Buddhist temples have nothing on us.
The Shape of Love?
One such thing I have noticed popping up more and more among Christians is the refashioned image of love. We quickly assume we know what it is: to show love is to affirm the feelings and personal interests of another. Granted, sometimes that is how love is manifested. But as far as a definition goes, it’s not quite what’s presented in the scriptures. Nobody today disagrees that we need more love in our society. However, if you ask someone what the word means, you’re likely to hear something about being nice and letting people alone to do whatever they want.
The most succinct definition of love in the Bible is found in 1 John 4:8: “God is love.” It’s important to note that it doesn’t merely say God is loving. In other words, love is the essence of the totality of God’s being. It’s not just what He does, it’s what He is.
Some are drawn to this definition because it allows us to call out anyone who does something that we consider unloving as working against or opposing God. If God’s essence is love and we claim that His Spirit indwells us, then love is what we should be all about. And someone who isn’t loving is thus “Godless.”
However, if we’re going to take this definition seriously, it seems to me that we have to find out what God is like so we can then know what love is really like. Only then can we determine whether what we feel love ought to be fits with what is revealed about who God is. To be faithful to this definition, we must start with God. If we instead begin with what we personally believe love is or should feel like, we end up shaping our image of God after ourselves. Thus, we would be saying something more like, “My idea of love is God.” We would then be on the pathway of worshiping an image rather than the Almighty Creator of heaven and earth.
This possibility should concern any follower of Jesus.
What is God like?
That’s a big question. Moses asked to see God while he was on Mount Sinai. God agreed to let the man see only His backside (not sure exactly what that means). But the way it’s played out in the story is this: “And [God] passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, ‘The Lord, the Lord, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished’” (Exodus 34:6-7, NIV).
This self-disclosed description of God is an interesting mix of kindness, mercy, and justice. The first three quarters fits easily into my natural picture of the loving character of God. That last phrase about not leaving the guilty unpunished, however, is a bit jolting. Yes, when God describes Himself, He starts with His compassion and graciousness. But the picture isn’t complete without also reminding Moses that He is holy, and sin doesn’t find a resting place in His presence.
If then God is love, love must be composed of who He is: compassion, grace, faithfulness, forgiveness and the execution of justice and righteousness. Can love really be all of that? If we’re talking about the kind of love the Bible speaks of, it doesn’t always feel pleasant and isn’t necessarily “nice.” But if it’s the love that God claims describes His essence, then it’s good, compassionate, sacrificial, pure, and never gives up calling its recipients to a higher standard.
What kind of definition of love do I live by?
The Highest Good
One expression that has been used for many years to describe love that digs deeper, requires more, and asks hard questions is “tough love.” I don’t always agree with how this idea is acted out—I’ve seen it used to justify coercion and force. But it does push me to think of love as something that is not always warm and fuzzy—something of substance that can even be controversial.
A definition we have often fallen back on in our YWAM training is “choosing the highest good for God, others, and myself.” Due to the corrupting nature of sin, the “highest good” is not always something people can see clearly on their own, and it is not always something we want to see. God’s highest good has to do with our original purpose and what He designed us to be. It reveals our true worth and destiny to be members of His divine family. When we don’t see ourselves or others through the lens of what God had in mind when He created us, it’s difficult if not impossible to comprehend His love—which must be our standard as His children and followers of Jesus.
God is love. Do we know what He is like in the fullness of His character so that we can recognize and embrace the good He has for us and others?
Love is not God. Our natural feelings of what love ought to look and feel like do not always tell us the truth. Let us not “carve” a new image of God’s love to match what feels more comfortable or fit shifting cultural norms that we then worship and look to for guidance. That is the definition of idolatry. We must study Him so that we can intimately know His ways, His purposes, His heart. It’s the only way for a follower of Jesus to carry and express a right and robust definition of love in a way that brings transformation.
Let us pray that we can learn to love like God does as well as like He is.