Tag: Identity

Choosing to Not Give Up

After my face was smashed into the sweaty mat several times by a brute bigger than me I changed my mind. That was enough, and I gave up the thought of becoming a wrestler. The high school coach had said he could make me… Continue Reading “Choosing to Not Give Up”

Choosing to Limit Myself

I recently had someone describe her problems to me as rooted in co-dependency. She could see that her choices had become so enmeshed with another person’s responses that she no longer knew what was hers and what was the other person’s. The solution she… Continue Reading “Choosing to Limit Myself”

Choosing a Resilient Identity

No matter how hard I try, why are some things so difficult to resist? Overeating? Harsh responses to those who correct me? Anxiety about the future? I know how I should respond, what I’m supposed to do, and what I ought to feel. But… Continue Reading “Choosing a Resilient Identity”

Choosing Real Comfort

It’s a condition that I have had for many years now. I am prone to develop infections in my colon that can be extremely painful. It has put me in the hospital in the past, and I have come to recognize the feeling in… Continue Reading “Choosing Real Comfort”

Choosing More than Appearances

Who wouldn’t want to be Bilbo the Hobbit upon finding a magic ring? Oh, the mischievous things that could be done! In addition, there would be the unique comfort that comes with the ability to turn invisible, hiding from the prying eyes of goblins,… Continue Reading “Choosing More than Appearances”

Choosing What I Practice

It was my high school Spanish teacher who challenged an old axiom I had heard all my life. “Practice makes perfect.” This little phrase had been a mantra that I had assumed must be in the Bible somewhere because I heard it so much.… Continue Reading “Choosing What I Practice”

Choosing Boundaries

I recently had someone describe her life problems to me as rooted in co-dependency. She could see that her choices had become so enmeshed with another person’s responses that she no longer knew what was hers and what was the other person’s. The solution… Continue Reading “Choosing Boundaries”

Choosing My Identity

During my senior year in high school, my football coach referred to me as a “great athlete.” I was shocked but ecstatic that he would say such a thing. That was NOT how I saw myself. I had had minimal interest in athletics most… Continue Reading “Choosing My Identity”

Choosing to Call Out Courage in Another

I was in the third grade when I painfully discovered something about myself. A teacher was giving a math lesson on the multiplication table using a chart with colored geometric shapes. She asked for a volunteer to provide the answer to 3X3, referring to… Continue Reading “Choosing to Call Out Courage in Another”

Choosing the Right Words

As far back as I can remember, I have largely interpreted life, my value, and my impressions of those around me through the words I hear. What I have taken in through my ears has lodged deep into my soul. Countless words have cut… Continue Reading “Choosing the Right Words”