Tag: Relationships
Posted on December 15, 2025
by Jeff Herringshaw
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Many times in my life growing up, I felt misunderstood. I tried to relate to those around me by being who I thought they wanted me to be. It felt like few, if any, ever saw the real me and said, “I like that… Continue Reading “Choosing to Be Seen”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Closeness, Connection, Cover-up, Emotional Connection, Faith, God, God Is Love, God loves, Good Relationships, Hiding, Hope, I want more, Intimacy, Intimacy with God, Intimate Connection, Into-Me-See, Jesus, Jesus Loves Me, love, Masks, Meaning of Life, Relationship with God, Relationships, Salvation, Satisfying Relationships, Self Deception, sex, Sex is not enough, Spiritual Connection, Vulnerability, Vulnerable
Posted on September 8, 2025
by Jeff Herringshaw
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I read of her in my college literature class, Lady Elaine of Astolat. A figure in Arthurian legend, she died from the weight of unrequited love. Sir Lancelot just didn’t feel it the same way she did. Of course, dying because of or for… Continue Reading “Choosing Painful Love”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Broken Heart, Death of Jesus, Faith, Feeling Good, Feelings, For the sake of love, Forget about myself, God, Grace, Hope, Jesus, Laying down my life, Long Suffering, love, Love Hurts, Martyrs, Pain, Painful, Painful Love, Real Love, Relational Bliss, Relationships, sacrificial love, Suffering, Suffering for Christ, Tragic Love, True Love, vows
Posted on August 11, 2025
by Jeff Herringshaw
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I like to feel good. It’s a basic urge within me to chase happiness wherever I think it can be found. My country’s Declaration of Independence affirms the pursuit of it to be an inalienable right. When I imagine myself in a happy state,… Continue Reading “Choosing Something Other than Happiness”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Changed Perspective, Comfort, Comfortable, Cry, Delight, Delighted, Enjoy, Excited, Faith, Fruit of the Spirit, God, God's Presence, Grief, Happiness, Happy, Holy Spirit, Hope, Jesus, Joy, love, Miserable, Misery, Mourn, My Life Sucks, New Perspective, Out of Control, Peace, Perspective, Pleasurable, Pleasure, Rejoice, Relationships, Sad, Sadness, Suffer, Suffering, The Cross, Uncomfortable, Weep, Weeping
A few years back, some friends asked if I would keep their car while they spent a few months working in Asia. I could use it as a second vehicle if I took care of it. It ended up being a great deal for… Continue Reading “Choosing to Claim Nothing As My Own”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Arrogant, Care, Caretaker, Caretaking, Clinging, Clingy, custodian, desires, entrusted, Faith, Faithful, fear, Fearful, Fearless, Fiduciary, gratitude, guardian, Hope, Hubris, Humility, It's not mine, keeper, love, Mine, My Stuff, Open-handed, Ownership, Personal Property, Poor, Poverty, Pride, protector, Proudful, Relationships, Release, Releasing, Responsibility, Rich, Self-gratification, Sentry, Serve, Serving, Shepherd, Stewardship, Superintendent, Thanksgiving, Trust, Trust God, Trusting, Trustworthy, Unselfish, warden, Wealthy, Wisdom, Wise
Posted on April 7, 2025
by Jeff Herringshaw
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I was 19 years old working a summer job between college semesters painting our little town’s city hall. It was a season of experiencing new life in my spiritual walk with Jesus. One day, I was overjoyed to have a conversation with a local… Continue Reading “Choosing Risky Love”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Bitter, Bitterness, Communication, Faith, Good Communication, Hard conversations, Hate, Healing Words, Honest, Honesty, Hope, love, Loving Words, Offended, Offensive, Relationships, Right Relationships, Speak the truth in love, Speak Truth, Truth, Unforgiveness, Words
Posted on February 10, 2025
by Jeff Herringshaw
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Ear plugs have become my friend over the years. Whether it’s to dampen outside noise in a motel room with thin walls, help me mute distracting sounds so I can focus on the book I’m reading, or to get a good night’s sleep with… Continue Reading “Choosing to Listen”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Active Listening, Afraid, Ask, Ask questions, Bad Communication, Communicating well, fear, God is speaking, Good Communication, Good Relationships, Hear, Hearing God, Hearing God's Voice, Hearing Others, Hearing to Understand, Hearing Well, Humble, Humility, I am needy, I don't need you, I Need God, I need Jesus, I need you, Input, Input from others, Isolation, Listen, Listening, Listening to God, Listening Well, love, Open questions, Pride, Relationships, Self Sufficient, Understanding
Posted on November 4, 2024
by Jeff Herringshaw
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So much of the truth revealed through the scriptures is counterintuitive. At face value it does not make sense. One of the results is that we have to stop, think about it, and go a little deeper. For example: And there is one that… Continue Reading “Choosing to Go Slow”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: A hurried life, Bad Habits, Better Relationships, Don't Hurry, Faster, Finding God's Will, Hurry, Relationships, Slow, Slow down, Slower, Speed, Take it easy, Too fast, Wait, Waiting
Posted on October 21, 2024
by Jeff Herringshaw
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It was my high school Spanish teacher who challenged an old axiom I had heard all my life. “Practice makes perfect.” This little phrase had been a mantra that I had assumed must be in the Bible somewhere because I heard it so much.… Continue Reading “Choosing My Habits”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Bad Habits, Behavior, Cause and effect, Change My Mind, Complete, Defeated, Defeatism, Excuses, God loves me, God loves you, Good Habits, Habits, Making Excuses, Perfection, Practice, Practice Makes Perfect, Reap, Reap what you sow, Reaping and Sowing, Relationships, Repentance, Sow, Transformation
Posted on September 23, 2024
by Jeff Herringshaw
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The word ‘love’ in English is quite pliable. I can say that I love my wife and I love pizza, and most people will not accuse me of reducing my spouse to a mere platter of pepperoni nor looking to marry an Italian meal.… Continue Reading “Choosing to Give Myself”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Affection, Affectionate, Agape, Choosing to love, Dating, Definition of Love, Emotional, Emotions, Engaged, Eros, Falling in Love, Falling out of Love, Feelings, Give, giving, Giving myself, God Is Love, Heart, Highest Good, Image Bearers, Image of God, Infatuated, Infatuation, Love is a choice, Love is giving, Love is not a feeling, Love One Another, Loving, Marriage, Relationships, Romance, Romantic Love, Sentiment, Sentimental
Posted on May 20, 2024
by Jeff Herringshaw
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I was a child when I remember first hearing the concept of having a “friendship with God.” It provided a welcome relief from the burden of legalism my young perception of religion had pressed on me. But looking back, I now see that this… Continue Reading “Choosing a Different Kind of Friendship”
Category: Daily ChoicesTags: Abraham, Closer than a Brother, Companionship, Faith, Friendship with God, God my Friend, God's Way, Good Friends, Hope, Intimacy with God, Jacob, Jesus my Friend, Life, Life-giving, love, Loving God, Obedience, Obedience to God, Relationships, Struggling Friends, Struggling with God, True Friendship, Trust, Wrestling, Wrestling with God
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